All potential clients will have a 1 x 60-minute Discovery Session.

 During this session we will clarify all of your concerns and which of those concerns are the most important and/or urgent to you. We will talk you through the coaching options/packages and the successes that we have had as divorce coaches for past clients. 

There is no obligation to continue from this point. Sometimes we may decide that there are better options for you, than through Equal Exes, and we will discuss alternatives with you if this is the case.

While it may seem like
you are in your own
bubble of strife
and marriage problems,
you are far from alone.

PACKAGES

Package One: ‘First Steps’ consists of ‘Now What?’ , ‘Getting Ready’  modules, and Package Two: ‘New You’ Package One + Discover Your Personal Strengths and Redefine Yourself

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You are welcome to mix and match these packages so it suits you and/or add on extras. Add-ons will incur extra fees as outlined below.

Package One: First Steps

Now What? | Getting Ready

Package Two: New You

Package One + Discover Your Personal Strengths and Redefine Yourself

Add Ons To Your Chosen Package

Should I or Shouldn’t I?

Being the Best Parent You Can Be

Need Career Direction? Or Be Your Own Boss?

Preparing You For Mediation: Mediation Support On the Day

Divorce Coach To Accompany Client To Expert Appointments

One Off Appointments

Help Me! How Do I Deal With A Toxic Ex?

Your Organised and Completed Paperwork

EESelfcare

Own Your Own Money Programme

 

  • Business Review
  • I Need To Know My Numbers
  • What Are You Fighting Over
  • I’m Ready To Take Control Of My Life
  • Staying on Track
  • Spousal Maintenance

Note: Every one on one session will be 60 minutes. 

Depending on location, these may be face-to-face or via Zoom (video calling application). You can add more sessions at any stage if you need them.

Package One: First Steps

I Am Getting Divorced – Now What?

This is the first line of coaching support. People think “I am getting divorced/separated – now what?”

You feel overwhelmed and confused and may be already riding the emotional rollercoaster of despair. You may also feel afraid of the future, or unable to focus.

Getting started with the ‘Now What’ module will help you gain the confidence in moving through the divorce process, if this is the right solution for you. We will help you gain clarity of the facts and gain the courage to make informed decisions about your future, for you and your wellbeing.

The ‘Now What’ module includes:

  • 3 x one on one divorce coaching sessions
  • Follow up emails, guidance materials and action plans in between sessions
  • Referrals to appropriate wraparound services including legal, financial, health and wellness, counselling and more
  • Email/Phone Support in between sessions – One hour a week maximum

Getting Ready for Settlement Discussions

The ‘Getting Ready’ coaching module is about getting ready Getting Ready for Settlement Discussions

Do you understand your bottom line so you can have confidence in facing your ex-partner? Can you stand up for what is best for you and your family during negotiations?

After these coaching sessions you will have the confidence to hold your own in discussion about what you need. You will be strong and more certain during the process. You will be able to stand up/voice yourself as a credible client and be heard.

3 x one on one divorce coaching sessions

  • Follow up emails, guidance materials and action plans in between sessions
  • Referrals to appropriate wraparound services including legal, financial, health and wellness, counselling and more
  • Email/Phone Support in between sessions – One hour a week maximum

Package Two: New You

Discover Your Personal Strengths & Redefine Yourself

Package Two: New You

Discover Your Personal Strengths & Redefine Yourself

Discover your personal strengths and redefine yourself. This is the package to help you get back on your feet and thrive as your new, independent you.

Do you feel disrespected and victimized? Are you wanting to throw in the towel and avoid the painful interactions and get your divorce/separation over ASAP? You feel tired and worn out. You can’t let go because of the anger and betrayal. You need to move on but you are afraid that you will fail.

You will feel transformed as you will be able to let go of certain emotional attachments and be free to make different choices. At the end of your coaching sessions you will reconnect with your strengths and your vision of what is possible for your life.

6 x one on one divorce coaching sessions

  • Follow up emails, guidance materials and action plans in between sessions
  • Referrals to appropriate wraparound services including legal, financial, health and wellness, counselling and more
  • Email/Phone Support In between sessions – One hour a week maximum
  • Strengths Assessment

Both options include a 90 minute session with Jason Biggs, Strengths Coach and a strengths assessment.

Add Ons to your chosen package

Should I or Shouldn’t I?

Are you on the fence about whether to stay or go? Are you wanting freedom? Do you feel like time is running out?

With this package you will aim to discover your ‘Best Self’. Get off the fence you are stuck on and make a choice based on your positive values. We will be giving you the freedom to take the next step to happiness too!

3 x one on one divorce coaching 60 minute sessions

  • Follow up emails, guidance materials and action plans in between sessions
  • Referrals to appropriate wraparound services including legal, financial, health and wellness, counselling and more
  • Email/Phone Support in between sessions – One hour a week maximum

Being the Best Parent You Can Be

Are you struggling with the difficulty of needing to tell your children, and needing to protect them from the damaging effects of your divorce.

You will have the tools to focus on what is best for your children. In a positive way you will have clarity around effective co-parenting with your ex. Good boundaries will be set for yourself and others. There will be an opportunity for you and your ex spouse to work together on finalising your parental plan in the best interests of the children

3 x one on one divorce coaching sessions

  • Parenting Agreement 
  • Follow up emails, guidance materials and action plan in between sessions
  • Referrals to appropriate wraparound services including legal, financial, health and wellness, counselling and more
  • Email/Phone Support in between sessions – One hour a week maximum

Help Me! How Do I Deal With A Toxic Ex?

Toxic love, is quite literally, a drug addiction. You need to cut the cord with your toxic ex-partner so you can detox from the relationship – unfortunately, it is rarely that simple, particularly when you have children together.

Is your ex controlling? Emotionally abusive? Insensibly difficult? Does she/he minimize, deny or shift the blame? Does he/she try to intimidate or isolate you or the children? And do they exhibit any signs of parental alienation?

You would think that after spending months or even year of wasted dollars trying to divorce your spouse that you would be able to move on with your life, right? Well, this is not always the case in high conflict divorces especially after you have been through a lengthy process that is time, money and mind consuming.

You will be guided through the high conflict personality types and strategies and step by step guides of how to deal with this difficult personality in your life. If relevant you will also learn how to parallel parent with your ex and find peace of mind. You may need to redefine your parenting plan, and learn to adjust to solo parenting so you and your children thrive.

By the end of the coaching you will be able to focus on how to build your resilience going forward, assertive communication through role plays, how to resolve conflict positively and learn how to manage your rocky post-divorce relationship and more!

  • Follow up emails, guidance materials and action plans in between sessions
  • Referrals to appropriate wraparound services including legal, financial, health and wellness, counselling and more
  • Email/Phone Support In between sessions – One hour a week maximum

Pre Mediation Coaching Preparation

Mediation is an informal process for helping people who have a dispute to sort it out for themselves without going to court. A mediator is a neutral third person who encourages those in a dispute to talk to each other about the issues.

You will be coached through the fundamentals of mediation such as what to expect during mediation and how to use mediation effectively. You will be given an “Equal Exes Preparing for Mediation” workbook and we will work through the workbook during your coaching sessions before you attend your own mediation. The workbook will focus on your future with the other party, the other party’s point of view, the best and worst outcomes, finding solutions, ways to solve the options on the table and reality testing your options and more.

  • Follow up emails, guidance materials, Equal Exes Mediation Workbook and action plans in between sessions
  • Referrals to appropriate wraparound services including legal, financial, health and wellness, counselling and more
  • Email/Phone Support In between sessions – One hour a week maximum

New Career? Or Be Your Own Boss?

Worried about starting your career again after being out of the workforce for years? Are you thinking of retraining and starting a new career? Do you want to start your own business? Do you need to grow your existing business?

We can be your thinking partner as you sort through the inventory of your skills you have developed in the “work” you have done either paid or voluntary. We will support you in rebuilding your network, and you will begin to build your confidence again by developing your self-confidence based on your unique experiences and successes.

You will develop your resilience and the ability to overcome the hurdles that inevitably appear and gain clarity about what you are hungry to accomplish with your future work.

We will work together on creating your new or revitalised resume and connect you to a community of people who can encourage your success as you re-enter the workforce or take a different vocational path. You will find yourself taking new and exciting steps towards reinventing you and your work.

In your last session, if relevant, you will be guided by a business coach who will help you take your business from where it is now to where you want it to be. Alternatively if you are wanting to set up a new business a business coach will assist you and guide you through the set up helping you clarify the vision of your business and how it fits with your personal goals.

  • Follow up emails, guidance materials and action plans in between sessions
  • Referrals to appropriate wraparound services including legal, financial, health and wellness, counselling and more
  • Email/Phone Support In between sessions – One hour a week maximum

Preparing For Mediation: Mediation Support on the day

Attendance at mediation, liaise with our experts, we will also help guide you through the negotiations.

On the day of your mediation your divorce coach will liaise with your experts at mediation and help guide you through the mediation negotiations. The divorce coach can attend the mediation in person or be available exclusively during the day via phone, Zoom or Facetime.

  • Full Day or 1/2 Day (4 hours)
  • Divorce Coach to Accompany Client to Expert Appointments
  • Your Organised & Completed Paperwork
  • Organisation and completion of your legal and associated divorce/separation documentation so it is ready for your legal team to review.

Divorce Coach to Accompany Client to Expert Appointments

One Off Appointments

Additional sessions to the coaching packages can be added at any time.

Your Organised & Completed Paperwork

Organisation and completion of your legal and associated divorce/separation documentation so it is ready for your legal team to review.

Many people post separation and divorce are keen to take the next step towards controlling their money and confidently achieving financial independence.

Equal Exes has partnered up with Money Mentalist to provide a specially tailored “Own Your Own Money Package” for those in this situation. Please see the next page on how to go to the next step in managing your money for your new future.

Own Your Own Money

A programme tailored for those going through separation or divorce

Money is high on the list as a reason for divorce. Not enough of it, overspending it, hiding it, arguing, fighting about it, controlling it and the list goes on. Unfortunately, money issues don’t disappear when you divorce, so, it becomes important how you choose to view money. This will define how you move on from your relationship, become independent again and begin to create your own financial future.

This is why we have partnered with Money Mentalist. The co-founder, Lynda Moore, has a background in accountancy and money psychology (post-grad) and has been mentored by international experts in the field of money and relationships. She has been working with clients just like you who are going through separation and divorce, for over 10 years.

Plus, she has been where you are now, she understands your situation and knows how she can help. Wherever you are in your separation process, there is an Own Your Own Money programme for you.

I Need to Know My Numbers Programme

  • Whatever your level of knowledge of the household finances has been, you must establish what your numbers are – and the sooner you do this the better.
  • How are you going to live now? In other words, what is coming into your bank and what is going out? What do you need to change to make sure the ends meet? You don’t want to be worrying about money daily, so we will implement a simple Money Management system.

‘I Need to Know My Numbers’ is all about your money management and getting a system in place that is easy for you to maintain while you are going through the early stages of your separation, or you have a lot on your plate and money is the last thing you want to have to worry about.

What will I get?

  • Three one-to-one sessions with Lynda, each session is an hour. Depending on location, these may be face-to-face or via Zoom (similar to SKYPE). You can add more sessions at any stage if you need them.
  • A personalised Money Plan. Including everything from creating the Money Plan to implementation and setting up bank accounts.
  • Access to online accounting software for six months (you can roll this over if you want to).
  • A comprehensive workbook.
  • Follow up emails and action plans in between sessions.
  • Email/phone support in between sessions.
  • Additional sessions can be added

What Are You Fighting Over?

If you are newly separated, then this is for you.

Even if you have been kept in the dark about what ‘you own and what you owe’, you need to establish some base numbers. This helps you make decisions about where to focus your resources and your time – and that of your legal team’s.

  • A one-hour one-to-one session with Lynda
  • The templates and tools to help you work out your net asset position
  • Additional sessions can be added if required

I’m Ready to Take Control of My Life Programme

You are getting very close to, or you have already reached settlement. Now it is time to shift the focus from the legal process to you and what your new life will look like.

We all have beliefs (stories) about money; they create our behaviours which in turn generate our results. If you want different results, (I am sure you don’t want to have to go through this process again!) you need to look at the past and decide what has worked for you and what hasn’t and then change the story. This is a very empowering process of determining your own financial future.

We review and update your numbers and build a Money Plan (not a budget) that fits the new you.

‘I’m Ready to Take Control’ is all about getting you focused on creating a new financial future for yourself, and looking closely at your money mindset and the choices you make. We also look at how you are going to make different choices moving forward than you have done in the past.

What will you get?

  • Three one-to-one sessions with Lynda, each session is an hour. Depending on location, these may be face-to-face or via Zoom (similar to SKYPE). You can add more sessions at any stage if you need them.
  • A personalised Money Plan. Including everything from creating the Money Plan to implementation and setting up bank accounts. 
  • Access to online accounting software for six months.
  • A comprehensive workbook.
  • Follow up emails and action plans in between sessions.
  • Email/phone support in between sessions.
  • Additional sessions can be added
  • Referrals to other experts that can assist you on your journey.

Staying on Track Programme

Ongoing support and being able to talk with others who are where you are now or have been in your shoes is an important part of you rebuilding your life. When you are in the thick of a legal battle, juggling access for children, and worried about what to do next, you can feel very alone.

This is also the time when emotions and money can take over and you find yourself floundering financially and making decisions that may not be in your best interest long term.

You will have questions about your finances that you just don’t know who to ask for advice. We will be your sounding board. You don’t need to disclose any personal financial information to be part of this programme.

What will you get?

  • Access to our private Own Your Own Money Facebook Group where you can talk to other Equal Exes clients. 
  • You will have access to resources covering topics like child support, practical money management, dealing with the bank, and any other support you need.
  • There will be a monthly Q & A Facebook live session hosted by Lynda (and any other experts needed) where you can send us your questions.
  • Personal coaching sessions will be available if required 

I’m Ready to Take Control of My Life Programme

You are getting very close to, or you have already reached settlement. Now it is time to shift the focus from the legal process to you and what your new life will look like.

We all have beliefs (stories) about money; they create our behaviours which in turn generate our results. If you want different results, (I am sure you don’t want to have to go through this process again!) you need to look at the past and decide what has worked for you and what hasn’t and then change the story. This is a very empowering process of determining your own financial future.

We review and update your numbers and build a Money Plan (not a budget) that fits the new you.

‘I’m Ready to Take Control’ is all about getting you focused on creating a new financial future for yourself, and looking closely at your money mindset and the choices you make. We also look at how you are going to make different choices moving forward than you have done in the past. 

What will you get?

  • Three one-to-one sessions with Lynda, each session is an hour. Depending on location, these may be face-to-face or via Zoom (similar to SKYPE). You can add more sessions at any stage if you need them.
  • A personalised Money Plan. Including everything from creating the Money Plan to implementation and setting up bank accounts. 
  • Access to online accounting software for six months.
  • A comprehensive workbook.
  • Follow up emails and action plans in between sessions.
  • Email/phone support in between sessions.
  • Additional sessions can be added
  • Referrals to other experts that can assist you on your journey.

Spousal Maintenance Pack

  • Meetings with you to establish your pre-separation income and expenses. If you don’t have access to financial information, we can still prepare this based on anecdotal and lifestyle information.
  • Prepare your projected expenditure for spousal maintenance purposes.
  • Prepare affidavit of financial means.

Business Review Package

During your relationship, you may have been running your business on a part-time basis while you were looking after the household and supporting your partner in their career. Now you are on your own, your business is probably going to be your prime source of income.

  • You need to look at your business differently. Is it a viable business or a ‘hobby’ business? In other words, can you grow the income and make it more profitable? What do you need to do to ensure it runs as effectively and efficiently as possible without running you into the ground? What impact is this going to have on time with family?
  • Can your business meet your living and lifestyle expenses? Before you make the decision to invest more time effort and energy into your business, you need to know if there is a gap between the income generated by your business and your living expenses.
  • Now it is decision time. Do you keep your existing business? What additional resources do you need to close the gap between where it is now to where it needs to be?

Too many business owners don’t know the answers to these questions and spend years drifting along constantly worrying about money and wondering what is going wrong.

The Business Review Package is designed to help you understand how your business needs to perform to fit your lifestyle. Let’s face it none of us want to cut back lifestyle so growing the business sounds like the way to go. 

But is it really the best option for you in your current circumstances?

This is the question we will answer during our sessions together.